Deployment sucks, no matter which way you look at it.
Nobody likes leaving the comfort and safety of their home and all of their loved ones for an extended period of time unless it’s for vacation.
Deployment is no vacation, especially for first- time sailors and their spouses.
If you’re like me and you’ve never spent extended time away from your significant other, and you’re wondering how the heck you’re going to survive, consider making a deployment bucket list.
When I was searching through other military blogs for tips and tricks on surviving, a few blogs suggested creating a list of things you want to do while your significant other is underway (I was inspired by Show Me Ashley and Jo My Gosh , two other really great military/lifestyle blogs).
I’ve had my own personal bucket list for a long time now, and I do plan to write about that in a separate blog post at a later date. However, I do think having a bucket list specifically for deployment can be really beneficial.
Having a list of things you want to do for fun- not just to-do items you need to cross off your list- is a great way to spend some quality time with yourself!
I know, I know- I love spending time with my fiancé too, as much as anyone does!
But I’m also a college student with only a year and a half left before I enter the workforce. That’s also around the time we plan to be married.
I’ve got a great, big family and a few awesome friends and a whole world in front of me.
Of course I would prefer to have my fiancé by my side 100% of the time. But he picked a career he loves, and he’s good at it, and he’s about to make his own memories, too! So I figure I (and any other spouses trying to make the best of a less-than-stellar situation) should try and do the same!
Of course it’s okay to be sad and miss your significant other. The truth is that we all feel this way during deployment- like the best part of us is missing. But that doesn’t mean we should punish ourselves! Cry it out if you must, pick yourself up out of bed, and view this deployment as a chance to reconnect with your goals and interests.
While my fiancé and I enjoy a lot of activities together, there are a lot of things I’m interested in that he is not- and that’s completely fine!
I wanted to add those things that I enjoy to my list, which I split into categories
- Go for some hikes. I live around lots of beautiful trails that are only a short driving distance away, and I could do this either alone or with friends! This will also give me a chance to get some good exercise and work towards my next item…
- Lose 10 pounds. While this isn’t a necessity for me, it would definitely help my self confidence as I have just a small amount of extra weight. I feel that once I get into a rhythm with school and work starting back up, it’ll come naturally, since I’m a yoga instructor at my university. Which brings me to my next item…
- Increase flexibility. While yoga is not about the poses, there are a few poses I would like to be able do consistently with confidence so that I may include them in my lessons!
- Attend some sporting events. I really enjoy watching football, soccer, basketball and other sports live, but my fiancé does not. This is a great opportunity to spend some quality time with friends cheering on our university’s sporting teams and getting my school spirit on! (Entry into the games are also free for students and they usually have a lot of cool freebies up for grabs, which is always nice!)
- Make a new friend or two. This would be nice since I’m typically very introverted (I know right? An introvert running a blog? Who would have thought, haha!) and don’t like to party hard like a lot of students at my school, but I won’t force it. The best friendships and relationship [with my fiancé] I’ve ever had in life have always come unexpectedly, but naturally.
- Plan for our wedding. There are a few venues I want to take a look at, and I’d definitely love to bring some family/friends along to give input and advice. Planning the wedding also gives me something to keep looking forward to when I might be feeling particularly down in the dumps.
Work and School
- Maintain my 4.0 GPA (sorry to toot my own horn!)
- Save money- although I do envision myself needing days to treat myself when I feel like I need a pick-me-up… or a new outfit!
- Continue to work on this blog and grow my following. This blog is giving me a chance to work my writing skills, cope with my feelings of sadness from the deployment in a healthy way, and learn the art of blogging.
I think this is a pretty good list to start out with. As this is our first deployment, I wanted to keep it simple, achievable and realistic.
Don’t feel pressured to have to do every single thing on your list- remember to have fun and use it as a chance to treat yourself!
What are your thoughts on my list? Too long/short, or just right? I’m always open to suggestions! Let me know what you think of my deployment bucket list, and enjoy writing your own!